5 Things Your Partner Should Never Do During Intimacy

If you and your partner have reached a stage in your relationship where you've mutually decided to engage in physical intimacy, chances are you've had conversations about it and feel comfortable enough with each other to explore that connection. However, especially if you're new to intimate experiences, it can sometimes be difficult to distinguish between what’s healthy and enjoyable, and what may be harmful or disrespectful.

To help guide you through this important aspect of a relationship, here are five critical things your partner should never do during moments of intimacy.

1. Pressure You Into Being Intimate

Before you and your partner ever share intimate moments, you should have open and honest conversations about it. Intimacy should always be mutual—it should happen because both of you want it, not because you feel obligated or guilty. Being in a relationship does not mean you owe anyone anything. Consent is continuous, and you're allowed to change your mind at any point—even during intimacy. A respectful partner will always honor your decision without guilt-tripping or coercion.

2. Force You Into Acts You're Uncomfortable With

It’s perfectly normal to explore and try new things during physical intimacy. However, you should never be made to feel like you must do something that you’re not comfortable with. Clear communication about boundaries, preferences, and limits is crucial. A caring partner will listen, respect your limits, and never push you into situations that make you uneasy. Intimacy should be built on mutual respect, safety, and trust—not pressure or fear.

3. Make You Endure Painful Intimacy

Intimacy might feel unfamiliar at first, especially if it's new to you—but it should never be painful. If your partner dismisses the importance of things like foreplay, or engages in acts that are physically uncomfortable (such as dryness or roughness), that’s a red flag. Painful intimacy is not only unpleasant but can also be physically harmful—leading to injuries or increasing your risk of infections. You have every right to stop and speak up when something doesn't feel right. Pleasure, comfort, and consent are not optional—they are essential.

4. Ignore Your Emotional or Physical Needs

A partner who only focuses on their own satisfaction during intimate moments is not considering your needs, and that’s a problem. True intimacy involves mutual care and attentiveness. Your partner should listen to your cues—both verbal and non-verbal—and be willing to adjust based on your comfort. If they continue with something you clearly dislike or disregard your preferences, it shows a lack of respect. Being heard and valued during physical connection is just as important as any other part of the relationship.

5. Remove Protection Without Consent

One of the most serious breaches of trust during intimacy is when a partner secretly removes protection—such as a condom—without your permission. This act, often referred to as stealthing, is extremely dangerous. It exposes you to sexually transmitted infections (STIs), unplanned pregnancy, and emotional distress. Most importantly, it violates your consent and trust. If a partner does this, it's a major red flag that they do not respect your autonomy or safety.

Final Thoughts:

When physical intimacy occurs between consenting individuals, it should be rooted in respect, open communication, and shared understanding. You are never obligated to engage in anything that feels wrong to you—your body, your rules. If someone violates your boundaries or continues

Always prioritize your well-being, emotionally and physically. A healthy relationship is one where you feel safe, valued, and empowered—especially during your most vulnerable moments.